Monday, March 17, 2008

#7 Their Sons


When a Korean male is born, Korean women will sometimes hang red peppers resembling penis' around the house as a mark of pride. When a Korean girl is born, it's not like all of a sudden they're hanging taco shells or hot dog buns from the rafters...it's just not fair. Korean moms love to remind their sons and everyone else of how special and miraculous said sons are, even when they grow up to be bald 40 yr olds living at home, sleeping in the same twin bed with threadbare spiderman sheets they've had since they were 10. They are still special and miraculous.

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

This is tragic.

the Korean said...

For girls, they hang pieces of coal.

Anonymous said...

yes korean society is very macho and male orientated society but these days things have changed a lot and many korean family only have one or two children only and i dont think my mom preferred son but i can sense that she loves my brother so dearly and she seemd to favour him than me a lot LOL

Anonymous said...

this is because the korean male carries on the "family" name, while the korean female carries on someone else's.... but, deliver her a grandchild and you'll be on her good side, until she thinks you're not raising your child right... hahahaha

Anonymous said...

You forgot to mention it's only the oldest son that gets the "golden child" title in the family. No matter what he does, the oldest son will be the best and the other sons will never meet the standards of the oldest son even if they win in life.

Anonymous said...

I guess I was, "lucky" that I had two sons. My mil claims that she is, "liberal," because she does not favor boys over girls. However, it is very obvious, she is still very old school. She had two boys and obviously felt very proud of it, telling sil and I that she was so glad she did not have any girls, because girls are a pain. She also advised us that we should both have two boys, since it was, "best."

I have also seen the way she treats my niece compared to my nephew. It is really sad, she should be ashamed of herself for showing that kind of favoritism with her grandchildren. Who shows up at their granddaughter's bday w/o a gift for the bday girl, BUT has a gift for the bday girl's older brother?!?!?! That's just twisted.

Richard said...

I love the comment about hot dog buns and taco shells....that is classic.

Anonymous said...

Sad but so true (even still). Had always wondered why my paternal grandmother favored my brother and me, even though she didn't necessarily love my mother. And then some family research revealed that my father was her favorites and my brother was her first grandson = double whammy = prince among princes! Needless to say, problematic to grow up as the "lesser, second-born daughter". But I take private pleasure in exacting my revenge now... as in Korea, my mother has realized that in modern times, much more benefits to having a daughter. She even engages in #2 in that indirect, discreet-but-not-discreet manner which still makes me cringe.

Max said...

my mom is about 80% of this list. The few exceptions being that she doesn't think of me as a unique and beautiful snowflake but more of a retarded good for nothing lay about. Just because I haven't been doing anything productive for the last 30 minutes shouldn't really be a good reason to get hit with whatever she has in her had at that time. Oh i think you forgot the whole throwing whatever is in her hands when she is yelling at you. I don't know common it is in korean household but for me its an epidemic.

Anonymous said...

*sigh* I've been lucky in this respect. My mom and dad adore me and I'm a girl. This might be because I'm the oldest so that balances it out maybe ^_^?

My mom also told me it's best to have one girl first and then a boy for a total of two (as if I could control that xD). She said it's nice to have "one of each" and the girl ought to be the oldest because they tend to be more loving to their younger sibling.

Seoul Brother said...

My Korean name is "First in the East" because I'm the first generation American in my family. I'm also the last direct male descendant, so can you say "Oriental Yentl?"

Good. I knew you could boys and girls!

Of course, I pretty much said screw that friggin' noise real early on, and you don't even want to know what I said to my dad when he tried to spank me when I was 8. He never tried that shit again.

parkingathome said...

TACO SHELLS!! HA aha hahaaa

Seoul Brother said...

Goddamnit, don't nobody hate on Spidey!

soyunni said...

My dad's older brother had 3 sons. My dad had 4 girls. Guess who were the favorite child and grandchildren. My mom lived in shame until we moved to US. Now, the girls are doing very well, and the boys are not doing so hot. HAH! Take that!!!

Heather *IsaBella and Harrison's Mommy* said...

Yes, it's all about the oldest son... Everyone was excited that I had a girl first then a boy and said that birth order is 110% or 120% vs 100% for boy / girl. Who know? I'm married to the oldest son, and he is favored, but then again, it's because he hyo-do's to his parents and we take care of them and love them (translation = give them yong-don) but we do truly love each other so it's obvious why they love him more! He's the best child out of 4!

Love always,
Heather

P.S. My mom was so ashamed that she didn't have a boy (just me and my lil sis) that she turned me into a tomboy to make up for it. Oh well...

Anonymous said...

My grandparents definitely favor their grandson over their granddaughter. One time, my brother struck a golf ball with a club and it hit the side of my chin while we were visiting at our grandparents' house. Needless to say, it was very painful and I had a huge bruise. I went up to my grandma and tried to explain in broken Korean while pointing to the bruise that I had just been hit. She then rushes to my brother and cradles his face in her hands, asking him if his face was ok. Seeing that he was fine, she turns to me, kneads my bruise with her knuckles, and tells me it doesn't hurt. I was later punished by both grandparents for being in my brother's way when he hit the ball D:

siiigghhh, grandma, I know you love me sooooo much :P

My KM favors me though hehe

Anonymous said...

In fairness to moms, Korean boys >>>>> Korean girls.

Leo said...

This blog is hilarious! My boyfriend is Korean and you've pretty much summed up his mother in one post.

She ADORES her sons. Like seriously. She would let them get away with murder. Literally. In fact, she'd probably be willing to serve their sentences if it meant protecting her son's name. Man, she's crazy. Gotta love her though.